The Hostess wrote a WONDERFUL post today which caused me to add my two cents in.
Women all too often fall for great s.e.x., good looks, $MONEY$, or a dream that will never come to reality when choosing their mate. This is cool for the short-term, but many eventually end up stuck with someone who’s really not good for them.
There are so many articles out there hinting at a shortage of viable men, dooming women everywhere to end up alone or better yet, share a man for the rest of their life. I’m not sure if those rumors are true or not, but we shouldn’t use that speculation as an excuse to mate with people who really aren’t worth our time.
A WISE MAN once said, “You’ve got to appraise it before you buy it“, which translates to the fact that when choosing a potential mate, we all need to:
- Take into consideration the individual’s value (not just monetarily) in comparison to yours
- If they seem to be at a different place in life then you, look at their real potential in the near future and see how that fits into your plans for life.
- Don’t just start a serious relationship with someone based off what’s on the outside. Take a deeper perspective at who they REALLY are.
- Take note of “Red Flags” and decide if you’re willing to deal with them…or back out of the contract.
- Before starting a real relationship (aka marriage, or making babies) with someone, make sure that all of the issues are fixed before “buying”
Of course, love is not a rational creature. If we could all pick and choose who we fell in love with based on logical variables, the world would altogether be a better place. We find ourselves doing the craziest things, going against our beliefes of right and wrong, putting ourselves in the strangest situations all in order to keep someone around and it’s just foolish. If someone really wanted you in their life, and had your best interests at heart, you wouldn’t have to sacrifice your self-worth, priorities, hopes, and dreams to be with them….which brings me to her quote below.
I guess this goes back to women having this crazy idea that the more they sacrifice and prove their love, the clearer it will be to the object of their affection that he should be with her. HA! After all the sacrificing is done, if the woman doesn’t get what she wants (thinks she deserves) then she starts thinking about all the sacrifices she made to be with a man.
No relationships are cakewalks. There are always sacrifices to be made, but one of the most important things is that BOTH parties involved are willing to make them. If you appraised what you were purchasing before you bought it, you’d know if the fight was truly worth it.
Image from Meradith Farmer
